November 15, 2010

Silicon Valley Moms Group Acquired By Technorati Media

Reports of our demise, as the saying goes, were premature. The Silicon Valley Moms Group of sister sites is taking up residence in a new location. Look for that great timely, opinionated, poignant, and sometimes just plain funny parenting content you're used to seeing on this site over at The Women's Channel at Technorati. After 6 great years of blogging here, we've moved to a new home.


Jill Asher, Beth Blecherman & Tekla Nee

Co-Founders, Silicon Valley Moms Group

July 06, 2010

goodbye 50

It's kind of awkward that I am saying goodbye to 50-Something Moms Blog before I even turn 50, but I am. Much to the surprise of many of its 800+ (past and present) writers, The Silicon Valley Moms Group founders announced that all of its blogs, including 50-Something Moms Blog would be ending at the end of this month. The announcement did come as a  huge shock to many as was evident by the email responses of many of the SV Moms Group writers but reading the email that we all received earlier this month, it was clear that this was a very emotional, very difficult and painful decision. Of course in the beginning, some of us did not accept this decision too graciously. Change, especially sudden change is hard. It's scary. It's unnerving as we wonder what else is going to happen now that this has happened? It is the rare person who openly embraces changes like this. I am definitely not one of those people and I was clearly in the majority of the writers and bloggers of SV Moms Group who struggled with the shock, surprise and disappointment of the news.

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July 05, 2010

You Say Goodbye and I Say Hello. Hello. Hello?

I had just returned from an amazing vacation cruise to Alaska with my 80-something mom when I received some very disappointing e-mail news which you probably have read by now: The Silicon Valley Moms web sites are ending. 

I felt the floor drop by about two feet. The news caused me to start channeling Elizabeth Kubler-Ross' five stages of grief, memorized eons ago in nursing school:

Stage one: Denial. I don't think I read the e-mail correctly. Surely they are not really ending the websites? Read the e-mail again. That can't be right. Read it one more time. 

Stage two: Anger. What! They were still recruiting writers for 50-Something Moms last month! I just started blogging for these guys in April and now its over? I have spent HOURS learning to use their blog format, checking their guidelines, writing and rewriting my submissions, finding a photo source I like etc. and they are ending it? That is just rude.

Stage three: Bargaining. Please let them announce that they are starting something else and that they will still want me to be part of it. I promise I will get my posts done early in the month. I promise I will submit more than my required number of posts to make up for the blogger-slackers. Please let it go on. Please do not let it be ending. Please.

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June 27, 2010

A Day in the Life of Caring for Aging Parents

Four days ago, my 89-year-old FIL fell out of bed and hurt his neck and back. Today, my MIL asked me to help take him to the doctor. I couldn't imagine a worse way to spend a day, but naturally you have to say yes. Inheritances are at stake.

My husband is not an only child, but he is the youngest of four, and all his siblings have long ago left Memphis. That has left the responsibility of caring for his elderly parents solely on his shoulders. It's the one guilt I have about Elijah being an only child, that he alone will have to deal with the aging and passing of his parents. Hopefully, by then, he, too, will have a gracious and supportive wife to help him pick up the slack.

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June 26, 2010

Circadian Rhythms

I have worked 12 hour night shifts as an RN for the last four years. It was not always a straight night shift schedule but rather a combination of days and nights, switching every three months, from days to nights, then back to days.   

I like working nights, enjoying quiet moments with my infant patients and pleasant chats with my co-workers. However, night shift work can play havoc with your sleep cycle. I found the best way to deal with night shift was to go to sleep when I returned home and sleep until I was ready to get up. I would catch naps whenever I felt slightly sleepy. When on night shift, I took a lot of naps, before work and on my days off. Oh yeah, and I drank lots of caffeine whenever I needed to be awake.

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June 24, 2010

A Weekend of Strawberries

For one weekend every summer, June 26-27 this year, the quaint town of Cedarburg, Wisconsin becomes the celebration epicenter for the succulent, mouth watering star of summer: the strawberry.  Historic Cedarburg, Wisconsin will be holding what is now their 25th annual Strawberry Festival. The entire town will offer strawberries, and prepare strawberries, in every possible edible way. And 10,000 visitors last year were all the happier for it.

The weekend's activities begin with "The Berry Big Run," a 5k run/walk that begins at 8AM, benefiting  BigBrothers/BigSisters of Ozaukee County.  After the run, the town's streets are open as a Festival Walk of Art, where artists and  vendors from all over the greater Midwest are showcased. There will be artwork, jewelry, music, food courts, boutique style items, handmade toys, and more.

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June 23, 2010

Girl in Translation by Jean Kwok: A SV Moms Group Book Club

Transplanted from Hong Kong to New York City as a (very poor) young girl with her mother, Ah-Kim or Kimberley, struggled to make things better for her family, to learn English, to walk the line between traditional Chinese duties and the Americanized teenager she grew into. Join us today as we discuss the book Girl in Translation by Jean Kwok.

Here are what the SV Moms Group contributors ave to say today, all inspired by the book Girl in Translation:

Silicon Valley Moms Blog is hosting the book club discussion this month.

Past SV Moms Group Book Clubs have included:

June 22, 2010

A Vacation They'll Remember

I marched up the sandy hill, in what must have been my fifth trip heading back to our rented cabin on Lake Michigan. I was thirsty, my skin an itchy mix of sand and sunscreen, and I was hungry. I sighed loudly, shaking my head with the thought of "this is a vacation?"

As I trudged onward on sand filled watershoes, I could hear the joyous shouts of 5 boys recreating battle scenes on the beach behind me, armed with water cannons.  "Sure, " I thought, "of course they're happy. I'm doing all the work, where's my vacation?"  I had to laugh at myself, I fell into this trap every year. Every year that we summer on this beach in Michigan, I begin the first day of our vacation, with these types of thoughts.

I quickly remember back to my first vacation as a parent. I naively thought back then, that vacation with family, would mean vacation for me.  I wondered why no one had warned me that those days of having things done for me while on a family vacation, were gone.  I was now the mother, I was now the one who made it all happen. Who did I think was going to do all the packing, and bed making, and sweeping, and cooking? 

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June 21, 2010

Letting Go of Toys and Memories

My sister and I have yard sales together, once or twice a year, and always at her house. I was loading my granddaughter's Fisher-Price toy kitchen into my SUV and my husband objected. "You aren't going to sell Allison's kitchen are you?"

Yes, I was. Our granddaughter Allison doesn't visit us anymore (see Babies and More Babies, May 17, 2010) and if she did, Allison is now nine and not going to be too interested in a little girl's toddler-size toy.

Hanging on to my granddaughter's baby things seems to make me miss her more. I believe her mother may let us see Allison again in the future, but until then, I want to think about the situation as little as possible. I do not want to daily see Allison's things to remind me that she is gone. Also Allison is growing up and in my mind, I have to let her grow up. My husband, on the other hand, takes comfort in seeing Allison's toys and remembering her many visits to our house. We each deal with the loss of Allison's presence in our lives in our own way.

I took the play kitchen to the yard sale.

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June 18, 2010

College Students and Jury Duty

Many students go to school in a state other than their own when they head off to college. They may get a jury duty notice from their home state while away, and usually they can postpone jury duty until they graduate without having to ever appear at a courthouse. This is all very reasonable. Then there is Massachusetts.

Massachusetts has 121 institutions for higher education within its relatively small area. To take advantage of a tremendous jury pool it calls students that are citizens of other states, but go to school in Massachusetts, for jury duty. These students are not allowed to postpone it by phone or online or mail. They must spend a day in court and ask the judge to grant a postponement. In the meantime, these kids are also being called for jury duty in their home state!

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Is Teen Hookah-smoking Okay?

My son and I got into a text-argument last night. It started because I happened to see that one of his friends posted a photo of her new hookah on facebook with the status "Come smoke with me!" Later, I got a text from Elijah: "I'm at Ashley's*." So naturally I sent him back a text telling him that I don't know what the hell a 16-year-old girl needs with a hookah, but I did not want him smoking. I believe I might have mentioned locking him in his room and throwing away the key. At first he claimed that he wasn't smoking but soon the digital conversation degenerated into him telling me that it's not addictive and it's mostly water vapor and anyway if her mom is okay with it, why aren't I?

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June 17, 2010

Please Send money

Parenting a college-bound student is a tricky business.  Trying to combine your emotional and financial support with your child's new found independence can seem nearly impossible.  When my daughters went off to college, I wrestled with how to give love and support without them expecting too much.

As a mom, we worry about our kids eating properly, so we send care packages.  They come home on break, and you find yourself sending back half of the pantry and refrigerator.  You are out shopping and you pick up those little extra things they might need.  I have even caught my husband slipping them money “just in case of an emergency.” The girls never fail to phone home when they are short on cash.  It is easy for kids to fall in a pattern of expecting us to “foot the bill,” for all of those unexpected expenses. 

Both our girls seemed convinced that the money they earn over the summer, lasts forever.  Let’s see, $7 an hour for 20-30 hours a week…hmm that’s a fortune.  Unfortunately, Mom and Dad end up supplementing this meager amount, well before the school year is over.

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If You Can’t Stand the Tile, Stay Out of the Kitchen

I hate my kitchen. Really. And. Truly. It’s the only thing about my house that I genuinely despise.

I live in Silicon Valley, where the price per square foot is ridiculously off the chart in comparison with the rest of the country, so even a small dwelling bears a price tag that would indicate that you must be rich and famous elsewhere.

Like wizened billionaires, my kitchen is unattractive and ugly. It’s small and narrow; two people have to choreographtheir moves to stay out of each other’s way. You can’t open the unusually small oven door if you are getting something out of the refrigerator (fortunately, I don’t have this conflict often). Functionally, it does what it’s supposed to. There’s a fridge (actually two since there are six of us), a double oven, and a range top that’s exactly like the one in Graceland. Yep, I can cook like the King. How long has that guy been dead, anyway?

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June 16, 2010

Sacred spaces

One of my husband's favorite movies was The Brother from Another Planet. My family and I were completely underwhelmed by it. I love the book A Severed Wasp, by Madeline L'Engle; friends have yawned, "It's okaaay," after reading it.  We've all had that happen; we've all recommended something near and dear to our hearts, only to be disappointed by the response of friends and family. So it was with no small amount of trepidation that I took my friend Tee to Montezuma Well, after having told her that I consider it one of my most holy places on earth.

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Men Buy Avanafil to Stop ED

For most men their sexual life is as important as taking a bath and getting a good meal. But as soon as their sex life begins to rip apart, their lives as well become a stress and a nightmare. Today, millions of men suffer erectile dysfunction, not because of poor lifestyle but generally because almost all men are hormonally inclined to have ED. Some might get it at their older age, but for some who have already experienced erection failure in their twenties is a bigger problem. Men are in their peak time of their life during their twenties or thirties, and indeed it is sad news to have ED during these peak seasons of their lives; a time where they can find their potential mates and enjoy themselves being a man. Since there is no permanent cure for ED, this even made the situation more difficult. But for those who are hopeful to get back their sexual life, the good news is that they can actually take advantage of ED pills sold in the market today to help them get erections when needed. Again these drugs are not intended to cure the ED permanently, but will only help you get a hard on once sexually aroused, and the effects will eventually wear out within a certain period of time. For some who want to try something new to treat ED, they can actually buy avanafil and use it during their course of treatment.

Men buy avanafil for many reasons. First and foremost, avanfil has been proven and tested to have less side effects as compared to its competitor drugs. The main reason is simple; avanafil has shorter half life as compared to other ED pills. This means that the drug will only stay in your system just enough when you need it, and will eventually leave your body once you do not need it anymore. In average, avanafil can start working within 15 minutes or less, and the effects can last for up to 6 hours. This feature is fair enough that we can truly say that avanafil is so far the best drug available for ED treatment in men. Continue reading “Men Buy Avanafil to Stop ED” »

Why Sildenafil Citrate 100mg Should Be Your Choice

The time you begin to find that you have ED or erectile brokenness, you might have thoroughly considered your sexual life landing at an end. Despite the skirting on miserable condition, you have to comprehend that you are by all account not the only one – every man can have it especially when they begin to accomplish a development. In any case, if you happen to have ED in the midst of your 30s or 40s, then you might require medications resulting to these period is not yet the perfect time to surrender your sexual concurrence. Still, you have to view yourself as lucky in light of the way that you live in a period where solutions for ED have starting now been made. If you are unhinged to keep your element sexual conjunction regardless of the erectile issue then you can pick Sildenafil citrate 100mg as answer for keep you going once more.


There are really different sorts of medications accessible for ED, for example, surgical supplements, vacuum choking contraptions, and transurethral blends. On the other hand, these are conspicuous and frightening, furthermore be amazingly rich. This is the reason most patients quit utilizing these option remedies and rather perceive their destiny – to continue living with penile erection issues.


Nowadays in any case, neighboring surgery, imbuements, and mechanical contraptions, there are at present oral medications which can be utilized for the treatment of ED, well, at any rate enough long to share in sex as the treatment is not persevering. By chance, regardless of all that it beats troublesome, rich, and interfering systems. Reality arrives are still diverse men who are careful about trying oral solutions themselves. Then again, once they find the opportunity to be taught on what makes sildenafil citrate 100mg work, they find the opportunity to be more open to utilizing them.


In a study that a particular social affair of authorities have guided, it was comprehends that the utilization of sildenafil citrate 100mg was to an extraordinary degree suitable. On the off chance that for some peril that the subject did not satisfy an erection amidst the first attempt, the going with try or an expansion in estimation will help them to fulfill it, from this time forward, making the solution really productive in the matter of treating ED. Continue reading “Why Sildenafil Citrate 100mg Should Be Your Choice” »