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June 22, 2009

Aging Ungracefully: I don't want to look old!

Blogher picture Just so there is no misunderstanding, I am not complaining about getting older. Mostly because it is much better than the alternative. Also, I enjoy the self-confidence and wisdom that come with age. However, I find that recently it is getting harder and harder to look in a mirror without getting upset.

I remember years ago reading an article or book that said that as women get older, they can stop thinking about their looks, and will then have more time to pursue more varied interests. I don't know if I will ever reach an age when that will happen. Am I overly vain, or is this normal for a woman in her early fifties?

Maybe the aging process bothers me so much is because I have always looked young for my age. I remember a dermatologist telling me as a teen that I would eventually be happy that I have oily skin because I won't wrinkle as much when I'm older. That did turn out to be mostly true and I am grateful for that.

I began getting grey hair when I was still in my thirties and started coloring it then, so that isn't a new issue. So if it isn't my hair or wrinkles that are the problems, what is? I am beginning to gain weight, without eating more or exercising less. That damn metabolism  slowdown is a bitch. And I'm starting to get the belly that women get as their hormones say goodbye.

I also notice the little things. If you've never noticed, look at the difference in the elbows on an older woman and a young one. People say hands give away your age, I say it is elbows. And there is nothing you can do about them. I'm not even going to get into breasts.

How far will I go to look younger. I really don't know. Right now, I don't think I would consider surgery, but who knows what the future may bring. I'll continue to color my grey away, use tons of moisturizer, keep my hair long, not dress matronly (but not like a teen either) and hope for the best. What are you doing to help stay younger looking, or are you one of the women that I read about that are content to lose their looks so that they have more time to pursue other things?

Original 50-something Moms Blog Post by Jennifer Wagner who also writes at the New York Examiner and Connect with your Teens through Pop Culture and Technology

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