Where I live, there are lots of young families. That means there are lots of babies. That means baby presents. These days, parents register like a bride and groom and get what they need. Somehow though I just can't bring myself, with people I like a lot, to follow the register. It's probably really arrogant to do what I want instead of what's been asked for, but I send music.
There's another reason, too. Because I live in a community with many Orthodox Jewish families, popular culture is not automatically a part of childhood. Some didn't grow up with Pete Seeger, or Raffi, or any of the classic CDs our kids had.
And then, of course, there's Free to Be, You and Me.
Created by Marlo Thomas and Letty Cottin Pogrebin in 1972, it was designed to be a source of gender-free children's music and stories - and later became a TV special. It succeeded. "Parents Are people, people with children," "It's alright to cry, "Free to be, you and me" -- all of them were anthems for so many childhoods. And except for the one about the little boy who wanted a doll (I think that battle is mostly over) it's still timely. So, boy or girl, many a child in our community receives the CD from us. Mostly, they love it. Except.
One daddy, whom I asked before I sent it, describing William wanting a doll and Rosey Grier singing about how OK it was to cry -- well he wasn't having any. I guess I knew he wouldn't be interested and that's why I asked, but I'm a little sad about it. Thirty-somethings I know who did grow up with the record loved it. And as far as they, and my own sons are concerned - well, they're going to be magnificent, engaged fathers. I hate for them to miss it. Their call though.
So if you know about the arrival of some new little people, and they already have enough onesies and sleep sacs and Busy Boxes, send them a little propaganda. Parents are people, after all. It's not like you're promising that all the princesses will marry their princes and live happily ever after or anything....
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